It’s DETOX TUESDAY – Let’s focus on one of my favorite topics.
No, not because I like to complain, but because I find it annoying, a waste of my breath and a total energy vampire.
But, I have been found guilty of complaining more than I care to admit.
I know it can be hard not to get caught up in it like a sticky web. One thought leads to another until you feel covered in negative energy with no way out.
There is a better way. Just stop doing it!
You’re probably thinking “easy for you to say Nicole, but I’m surrounded by negative complainers.”
You walk into the lunch room at work and over hear a group complaining about the boss in the corner….
You head back to your desk to find…
Your friend called and left a 3 minute voicemail complaining about what a rotten day she’s having. (always a pick me up!)…
Just then your co-worker pops in your office to unload about an annoying customer they just had to deal with…
Then you get an email, it’s the customer complaining about the co-worker that was just in your office….
It’s time to head home…thank goodness right?
You stop at the store and the clerk starts complaining about how it’s been so busy she didn’t get her break today…
While the person behind you in line is complaining the clerk is talking too much…
You finally get home and decide to watch a little tv to block out your day…only to find nothing but reality tv where everyone is complaining about everyone else on the show…
Your mind is drenched with the poison of the day….
You’ve hit your breaking point….you tried to stay positive but you’ve slipped into the quicksand – your mind starts rattling off all kinds of negative thoughts….you’re too hot, then too cold, too hungry but too tired to cook, broke, bored, completely underpaid and totally overwhelmed.
I know all too well how easy and viral complaining is and how it zaps your energy.
I have worked places where I literally had no friends because I stopped complaining with them.
You would think they would want to join me and talk about fun things, but somehow I became the boring one. I was quickly left behind when it was chat time because I only had positive things to say and refused to buy into the drama. Wow right?!!
Long ago I had started a new job and quickly realized the chair next to my desk must have been the hot seat for daily complainers to come and unload to the person that worked there before me.
I didn’t want to deal with that all day! So I put up a no complaining zone poster at my desk. The next day I came in to find people actually drew faces on it? (keep in mind these were grown adults that did this!) I stood my ground and left the poster up.
I told my daily visitors in order to sit at my desk, they had to pick an affirmation card and tell me how it applied to their life- after all it was a “no complaining zone”.
At first they laughed at me. But when they saw my conviction, it started to work. After a few weeks, most everyone actually came to my desk for their daily card and positive thought.
And would you believe the ones that stopped coming to my desk were either fired or they wound up quitting. (I just love how the Universe removes what is not serving you.)
I would much rather be laughed at and known for my positivity than be Miss Popular because I have the best complaints.
Complaining lowers your vibration.
It makes you feel like nothing is going your way. You may even start to believe the world is against you! And, you’ll start to attract people and situations that prove you right.
But it’s not. The Universe is absolutely for you. And so am I.
That’s why today-I’m enforcing “THE NO COMPLAINING RULE”.
For every complaint you hear from someone else or from yourself today, turn it into a positive statement. Take a stand. If not out loud – at least in your own mind.
We need more positivity in the world. Will you join me?
There are so many positive people who wonder if they are the only ones craving positivity…you are not alone if that is you! Join my Facebook Group Big Dream Awakening Inner Circle for a daily dose of feel good. (it is a no complaining zone and full of positive peeps!)
No day was ever made brighter because of a great complaint.
As for all those negative people in the world, when you stop complaining with them, they actually leave you alone. (you’re just not that “fun” anymore wink wink) And you may find some of them even decide to join you on the light side.
Here’s a funny spin on complaining from Jon Gordon-enjoy this video. LOL!!!!
I also highly recommend his book “The No Complaining Rule”. The No Complaining Rule: Positive Ways to Deal with Negativity at Work [Hardcover]  1 Ed. Jon Gordon
I would love your comments on this topic…how do you deal with complainers? Do you feel you’re alone in a sea of negativity?