Being around the ‘wrong’ kind of people complicates your energy and your life.
So it seems obvious to be around positive people. I hear you saying “well of course!” Unfortunately actually pulling it off is sometimes a challenge.
Deep down we are social beings, we crave connection.
However, that doesn’t mean spending your time with any Joe-shmoe who’s available or with people you just happen to find yourself with because you met 15 years ago.
If your circle of friends consists of “negative” people, then I assure you your life will sooner or later become extremely complicated, full of negativity and problems. And you spending time in those relationships means more recovery work for you afterward.
What qualifies as a ‘negative person’? Well that’s up to you and determined by how you feel when you’re around them, how you feel after being with them.
If you’re drained, stressed, anxious or tense – they may not be ‘your kind’. If your energy is just trashed and you have to disconnect from everything to recover – I’d say that’s a pretty good sign.
On the other hand, if your friends have an uplifting spirit and a positive mindset you’re in the right friend zone.
People you spend time with should help you to grow into the best version of yourself and do their best to bring more happiness into your life.
Therefore, you should make sure to choose your friends carefully. Why people spend their precious time and energy trying to convince someone of their goals, dreams or self-worth is beyond me.
You are not ‘required’ to stay friends forever based on the length of time you’ve known them, what they once did for you when you needed it or because they’re really going through a rough patch right now. Hell, you’re not even required to stay connected because they are your parent.
This is your life. Your experience. You owe no one.
If someone does not value you, support you or encourage you – it’s best to walk away or keep your interaction minimal.
Buddha said to have uttered the following words:
“If you cannot find a good companion to travel with, walk alone, like an elephant roaming the jungle. It is better to be alone than to be with those who will hinder your progress.”
I’ve walked alone many times. But never for very long.
The Universe seemed to know just when to fill that space with someone I really needed, enjoyed and appreciated. People who helped me become the best version of myself.
The same goes for you.
Looking for more positive people who really get you? Join us at The Happy Place for Highly Sensitive People. I know you’ll be surrounded by the most positive people on the planet. Sensitives have a way of shining their light to make it a better day.
Is there someone in your life that brings you down? Or worse, do they knock you down? Maybe it’s time to revisit the future of that relationship.
Who lifts you up? Who positively challenges you? Who helps you become the best version of you? Those are the keepers.