Take Charge of Your Holidays – and avoid holiday burnout this year!
Holiday Tip: Set the tone for your holiday in advance.
How do you want to feel this holiday season?
The best way to make it happen is to get clear about what YOU want for your holidays – in advance.
Decide how you want to feel.
It’s easy to slip into a direction you don’t want or fill your days with parties, people and gatherings you don’t enjoy if you skip this step.
Setting your intention in advance, allows you to operate with meaning or direction vs. not accomplishing what you want, or only accomplishing bits of what you want. Which leaves you feeling disappointed and frustrated.
Decide how you want to feel for the holidays and base all your decisions on that feeling.
Is what you’re thinking, doing or saying yes to enhancing your ‘pre-set feeling’ or taking away from it?
Set your intention on how you WANT to feel and you are more likely to recognize when something is not enhancing that feeling.
You can avoid it entirely or decline invitations that don’t feel right for you and>>>jump on the activities that magnify how you want to feel instead!
Holiday Tip: Notice what you notice and adjust.
It’s easy to get caught up in the doing, feeling distracted, your mind running wild with everything on your holiday-maxed-out-to-do list.
You might find yourself saying things like “I’m so tired” or “I don’t have time” which only makes you feel worse, but you push right on to the next thought, the next thing on your list without noticing or registering how you’re actually feeling.
You just accept it ‘as-is’ and push yourself onward.
When you notice what you notice, you own your energy. When you own your energy, you have the power to adjust as needed.
Awareness is so powerful.
“Notice what you notice” means – when you’re feeling tight, tired, anxious or overwhelmed – notice the feeling and then adjust.
If you struggle with noticing at first, it may be useful to set an alarm to go off at certain times of the day, to remind you to take a moment and ask ‘how am I feeling right now?’ then adjust as you need to.
So –notice how are you feeling right now.
Tense, stomach muscles clenched?
Stressed, holding your breath?
Whatever you notice, do something to adjust.
Sit up straight and stretch your muscles.
Release your stomach muscles.
Close your eyes and take a deep breath.
You can own your energy.
When you do, you expand your capacity to stress less and handle more through the holidays and every day.
And with all of the above, add a power thought like – “All is well”, “I feel at ease” or “I got this!”.
Holiday Tip: Identify the not-so-fun things about your holiday.
This is supposed to be the season of joy and being jolly – but for some, there are challenges and struggles around the holidays that really bah-hum-bug it all up.
Ok, so no one really wants to think about the downers at the holiday – but when you do, you rev your power.
Getting in front of what you don’t want gives you a different perspective vs. feeling stuck underneath it.
Trying to avoid the thought of what you don’t want creates more resistance – with the weight of those ugly things piled on top of you.
What kind of Grinchy things are we talking about here?
Stress. Family pressure or fall-outs. Feelings of obligation. Stretching the almighty dollar to get everyone a gift.
There’s no glitter in any of that.
When you get the stressful things out in the open, you take charge. You can plan ahead, get support as needed or try a new approach this year.
Take some quiet time to reflect on how you’re feeling. Where do you notice stress or tension? Where do you feel it?
Journal out your feelings. Then answer the following questions to shift the energy around what you come up with.
How is it perfect for you? How can you make it work for you?
How many different ways can you look at it? How can you approach it differently?
Is it your stress or expectation or someone else’s? How can you stay in your own energy vs. taking on theirs?
Is this a new issue or old energy bubbling up? What would make you feel better about it?
Know that you can give anything in your life new meaning and purpose so it works for you – you just have to be willing to go there and take charge of your energy.
Holiday Tip: Make self-care part of every day.
Let’s get clear on this. Self-care is not fluff, it’s not just for women and it’s not pampering.
I’m over talking about self-care like it’s optional and something you have to “try to remember to do”.
Make it your mindset that self-care is your normal, not something special you do for yourself or something you need to do because – you skipped it and now you’re exhausted.
When you take care of yourself you expand your capacity to handle more. You also have more energy for taking care of others and doing what you love to do.
The more you embrace self-care in your daily life, the more natural it is to adjust throughout your day – instead of waiting until you hit energy rock-bottom.
So what counts as “self-care”?
Consider anything that you “LIKE AND ENJOY THAT IS GOOD FOR YOU” as self-care.
What you do to help yourself feel better and cared-for is very personal.
So what do you “like and enjoy that’s good for you”?
Playing with your pet, a relaxing bath, hot shower, watching a funny movie, a 5-minute time out, drinking more water, laughing or going for a walk?
Whatever makes you feel more relaxed, happy or rejuvenated totally counts.
Write a list of things you like and enjoy that are good for you – then weave those things in throughout your day – every day.
Eventually it will become automatic, not something you have to think about.
You’ll have more energy for what matters most – and no holiday burnout!
Holiday Tip: Bring it in and calm the chaos.
Holiday pressure is real yo! It can make you feel hum-bug-diggity!
Truth is, regardless of how much you pre-plan and take action, there may be moments when a few too many things happen at once.
The noise gets too loud, the chaos in your environment takes over, the over-stimulated kiddos are screaming to open more presents while the adults are in the other room loaded up on spiked egg nog – this creates a sense of pressure when you’re a sensitive. (like the walls are closing in on you!)
You can’t think straight and feel out of control.
Trying to manage your energy based on what’s going on around you is ass-backwards!
Take charge of your energy and do it different this holiday.
If you find yourself in that heightened state, simply close your eyes, take a deep breath and bring your focus to your inner world. Add a power mantra like “all is quiet” or “I am at ease”.
Closing your eyes stops visual stimulation allowing your brain to more easily process and function.
Taking a deep breath calms you down by triggering neurons in your brain to tell your body it is time to relax.
Adding the power mantra helps you think with intention and activate the energy you want to feel.
This process removes you as the participant IN the chaos and allows you to OBSERVE what’s happening from the inside-out.
This way the chaos is not happening TO you, where you have zero control, it’s happening around you, where you can adjust as needed and stay at ease in your own energy.
Wishing you inner peace and joy,
Nicole Isler, Personal Energy Specialist & Self-Empowerment Coach for Sensitives
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